TIPS FOR A STRESS FREE WEDDING DAY.
While all weddings are different, one thing they all have in common: Everyone strives for a stress free wedding. And it’s understandable. After many months (or years!) of planning for this big day, the last thing you should be worried about on that day is if everything is going to turn out the way you envisioned it.
Straight to the point.
Here’s the secret to having a stress free wedding day:
SMART, DETAILED PLANNING.
When you eliminate all the questions you would be asked by people helping you pull off your big day, you eliminate the stress.
HIRE A DAY OF COORDINATOR.
Wedding coordinators can be a huge relief. They know your wedding as well as you do, so they can relief you of being the go to person for every wedding question. They can confirm your vendors, make weather related decisions, help with the small details, and cross of any last minute tasks.
IF DON’T HAVE A D.O.C, SHAKE IT OFF AND DELEGATE.
In the words of T Swift… Shake it off! You’ve done a fantastic job planning now is the time to relax and enjoy all of your hard work! You simply won’t be able to do it all on the day of your wedding, as much as you may think you can try! Designate a good go to person who knows your wedding as well as you do. If you have a day of coordinator, this is your person. If not, this is usually a mom or sister. They can help with things like help finding specific people for family formals, communicating with vendors, timekeeping - overall, problem solving. Create them a list of responsibilities and a personal timeline. You may also want to designate another person who isn’t a bridesmaid or close family member who can do things like setting up the details or taking care of the wedding gifts/cards at the end of the night.
HAVE A SOLID TIMELINE.
It’s no surprise that having a timeline is one of the best ways to ensure things happen smoothly and that there is enough time to allow you to do all the things important to you. You need to schedule everything say; from a first look with dad to a picture you and your best friends that want taken at the reception as soon as you arrive down to the smallest, tiniest little details - like bustling the dress, touch ups, time taking to find a bridesmaid cause she’s no where to be found for portraits, ect.. Be realistic as possible. Plan delays here and there. I wrote a blog devoted to tips on how to put together a wedding timeline. You can read all about that here. Make sure to share your timeline with the bridal party and immediate family so everyone is all on the same page!
DO A HAIR + MAKEUP TRIAL.
It's more than just making sure everything looks the way you want it to on your wedding day. It’s important to know exactly how long it’s going to take. However long your hairstyist/makeup artist says it will take to make you into a bridal goddess; add on an additional 30 minutes. Trust me on this. It’s almost always needed and if by chance it’s not, great! It buys us time in other areas.
KEEP GETTING READY SPACE FREE OF CLUTTER.
This is super important. Getting ready can often be chaotic. Water bottles, plastic hangers + dress bags, shoe boxes, food, trash.. push all of it to one area of the room. Keep the areas with natural light (windows, doors) clear as that is usually where photographers like to take certain photos. Designate one or two people to help keep the space as tidy as possible.
HAVE A BACKUP PLAN FOR WEATHER.
Even if you don’t ever use it, it’s nice to have in case you’re planning on an outdoor ceremony or outdoor photos. Watch the forecast, but don’t obsess over it - I can’t tell you how many weddings I’ve shot that the weather was supposed to be bad, but ended up being some of the most beautiful days ever!
BREAK IN YOUR WEDDING SHOES.
I think we all know the feeling of breaking in new shoes + it sucks. In order to be completely comfortable all day and night, don’t wear your wedding shoes for the first time on your wedding day! Break those suckers in!!
SET ASIDE DETAILS FOR YOUR PHOTOGRAPHER/VIDEOGRAPHER.
Your dress, wedding rings, wedding invitations, perfume, ect. Make sure anything you want photographed is set aside the night before the wedding. You can put all small items together in a box or bag, but keep the groom’s and bride’s items separate. I’ve created a handy checklist you can print out here.
SKIP THE RECEIVING LINE.
This is another time thing and is controversial with the parents, but it will save so much time and you will have time to visit with guests at the reception. Also, make sure the bridal party is all informed not to linger around otherwise you will inevitably end up with a receiving line which may intrude into time for other things.
GUYS - LEARN HOW TO TIE BOWTIES/PUT ON BOUTONNIERES.
You can make a 30 minute getting ready time slot turn into an hours time easily if the guys don’t know how to tie a bow tie (and Youtubing it the day of DOESN’T COUNT!) or how to put on boutonnieres. It’s all about being prepared!
HAVE YOUR FINAL VENDOR PAYMENTS AND TIPS IN ENVELOPES READY TO GO.
If any payments are needed to be made on the day of the wedding, or tips/gratuity paid to any of the vendors have everything labeled in envelopes and given to a designated person to give out.
THINGS HAPPEN. THE DAY MAY BE FACED WITH DELAYS , SOMETHING MIGHT NOT GO THE WAY YOU INTEND IT TO.
But it’s important to remember what this day is all about. Try your best to be present in the moment. Allow for time alone with your new spouse - even it is just 5 or 10 minutes. You day will come and go in the blink of an eye. This is the best party you’ll ever have — enjoy it!